Questions to discuss before deciding on marriage
Use respectful conversations to explore expectations about faith, family, money and everyday life.
Begin with values and religious practice
Ask: “What does religious practice look like in your daily life?” and “Which values guide difficult decisions?” Listen for examples rather than relying only on labels. Different habits deserve an honest discussion without turning the conversation into an interview.
Talk about practical responsibilities
Discuss work, household responsibilities, budgeting and existing financial commitments. Ask how decisions would be shared. You do not need to exchange bank statements during an early introduction; the aim is to understand attitudes and identify topics needing a fuller conversation.
Explore family and future plans
Talk about relationships with relatives, where you would live and whether you want children. Ask what involvement you expect from family members. Discuss both the ideal plan and what you would do if circumstances changed.
Observe how disagreement is handled
A useful question is: “How do you usually resolve a disagreement?” Notice whether each person can listen, clarify and respect boundaries. Return to important topics over several conversations. No checklist can guarantee compatibility; allow time and involve trusted people when appropriate to your circumstances.